Love & Relationship

100% true about it. 

It seems that one of the most important issues in people's lives are love, especially romantic love. Finding the right partner, being accepted, feeling loved, sharing joy and sorrow, planning a future together - these are things which keep almost the entire human population on this planet busy - very busy.

Romantic love seems to be a particular intoxicating drug that is made by a strange mixture of emotions, hopes, fears, and hormones. Some neuroscientists even say that the activities in the brain of people who are in love resemble that of drug addicts. Thus the range of intense experiences and feelings like euphoria, hyperactivity, longing, and desire as well as lethargy, depression, sleep deprivation, loss of appetite, etc., seem to be quite normal "side effects" of love. 

It seems that people get completely overpowered by this kind of love and its side effects. Sometimes it makes people almost crazy with joy and sometimes it makes them almost unbearably sad. It makes people act very childish and behave like complete fools, no matter how educated or smart they actually are. Not only does it make people lose their hearts but also their minds and brain as well. 

Sometimes you might be able to win another person’s heart and thus think that now you have got everything you ever wished for. But then you might get cheated, betrayed, or treated badly. And sometimes you get rejected right from the start and think that you'll never find joy again in your life. But the truth is no matter with whom you fall in love, in the end, there is always heartbreak. Sooner or later you have to part from

your loved ones. It might come due to misunderstanding, quarrels, betrayal, death, or simply impermanence and the change which we continuously undergo. 

That does not mean that love and relationships are something bad which you have to avoid by all means.  Affection and care for others is something very beautiful and a feeling we should nourish and try to extend, not only to those who are close to us but to as many beings as possible. The problems start when we get too attached and become obsessed with the objects of our desires. If our expectations, hopes, and fears become so dominant that they start to completely control our lives, disappointment, frustration, and suffering will naturally follow. Then, not only will we make ourselves suffer but also those who we actually want to see happy. 

So you should try not to take relationships too seriously. Because, why should you take all your happiness and even your whole life dependent on something so maniacal and unstable? 

Again, love and relationships are not by nature something negative. The way we deal with them decides whether they will be a cause for suffering or happiness. So if you're in a happy relationship, that's wonderful. However, be aware that it will not last forever. The result of all meetings is parting. So if you are attached then the result will be suffering.

So don't waste your time with quarrels and fighting, because you really never know how long you will be together with someone for. And if you're suffering from rejection or heartbreak, be aware that this won't last forever either. Don't waste your time crying and lamenting. Look ahead and be strong. You might fall in love again just the next day. And maybe another person will make you much happier.

So wipe away those tears and relax. And maybe you'll realize that no one can really make you happy if you don't find peace and happiness within yourself, in your mind.